I wanted to be a dad my whole life.
Even when I was a child I knew that when I grew up I would like to have a family.
My own father loved spending time with my siblings and me. He was always up for going to the playground or teaching us something new like how to ride our bikes or fix things around the house. He’d let us help him with anything that he was doing and had a way of making the most mundane chores an enjoyable activity. I wanted to be just like him!
One day I woke up and it kind of dawned on me that it was time. I was ready to be a father.
I had enjoyed my life so far and stayed busy, working, traveling, spending time with family and friends but I was ready for more. I still hadn’t found “the one” and I still hadn’t fulfilled my dream of being a father but there I was 36 years old and really ready for a family of my own.
A friend of mine and his wife had experienced challenges getting pregnant, and eventually decided to use eggs from a donor to achieve pregnancy. I wondered if donor eggs were an option for single men. We talked about their experience. They had found an egg donor through a database online, chose their egg donor from a list of hundreds. They funded the egg retrieval and their fertility clinic created their embryos. My friend’s wife was able to have a healthy pregnancy after IVF (the embryo was created using my friend’s sperm and the donor egg and it was implanted into his wife’s uterus). It sounded great but I felt weird about the whole database thing.
I mean, how did they know the information they were given was even true? I’ve heard crazy stories about sperm donors being fraudulent, and I imagine egg donation could be similar. And wouldn’t it strange to raise a child and know nothing tangible about half of who they are? Just some “facts” on the computer screen.
The level of anonymity didn’t feel right for me.
Obviously, I would need a Surrogate, so I decided to look into the process of surrogacy first.
I found Proud Fertility and learned about surrogacy in Canada. Through Proud Fertility I learned about Proud Egg Donation and known egg donation. I was able to meet my egg donor and verify any information I had been given about her. There was something really special about meeting the person who was giving me the opportunity to be a parent. I think it meant a lot to her, too. We agreed to stay in contact so that she would be able to share any pertinent medical information with me as it arose, and I could keep her up to date about whether I became a father as a result of her egg donation.
I know someday my daughter will have questions about where she came from. I love that I will be able to answer those questions and help her understand that she is so loved and was so desired that many people came together to make her life possible.
I love that I will be able to answer those questions and help her understand that she is so loved and was so desired that many people came together to make her life possible.
You can become a parent with the help of a known Egg Donor, too. Contact Proud Egg Donation for more information on receiving donor eggs or finding a Surrogate in Canada.
If you want to help deserving Future Parents by making a known egg donation, we can guide you through the process. Complete our Egg Donor Interest Form.